Kraft thought they had the answer to how to get your child to move out of the house – stop cooking with cheese!
This is one of the most popular questions I field after I tell people what I do.
The response to “I help kids move out of their parents’ basement” is usually met with a knowing grin, a laugh or a quick “I need you!”
So how exactly does the magic happen?
It’s one of those things – it’s simple, but not easy. Kind of like getting out of bed in the morning; it may be a simple task, but it can be really hard!
The steps are straightforward – discover purpose, find employment, launch life. But, much like Springsteen’s description of falling in love “ought to be easy, ought to be simple enough…” (from his song Tunnel of Love), it’s not that black and white.
Growing up and moving out, like love and life itself, is full of grey.
Helping young people discover their purpose does not mean they have found the answer to all of their problems. Rather, purpose acts as an important guideline to move people in a certain direction.
Listening is an important component in the task of discovery.
The next step is finding employment. There are plenty of resources that can help your child with this, but research is important. Ask yourself: is this the appropriate resource for my child? Again, listening is a key to success.
As a result of finding purpose and employment, young adults will be able to successfully launch their independent lives.
Unfortunately many young people are experiencing their “quarter life crisis” . Anxiety and depression are serious mental illnesses affecting our youth. It has become so challenging that our young people have started using a new description to define their lives as they transition from adolescence.
According to the Urban Dictionary adulting is defined as “to do grown up things and hold responsibilities such as, a 9-5 job, a mortgage/rent, a car payment, or anything else that makes one think of grown ups.”
In today’s world, young people are contending with helicoptering parents, instant gratification, intense technological advancements and an economy still suffering the effects of a nearly global recession.
It’s certainly not easy.
As a function of all these factors, young adults are staying at home longer (41% of young adults aged between 18 and 34 are still living at home), or have returned home (the boomerang kids).
Retirement plans are being put on hold or even shelved altogether in order for boomer parents to financially support their grown children.
Parents are asking “how can I get my child to move out?”
Kraft was wrong. The answer was not to stop cooking with cheese.
It’s to start listening with love – and helping your children find the resources that are right for them.